How does one go about finding lifetime happiness, anyway? We think if we get what we want, then we’d be happy. Then we think, if we only had more time, more money, more things, then we’d be happy. How about, if I only had what they have, then I’d really be happy. Fortunately, these are some of the greatest fallacies of our time.

Then one might ask, how does one achieve lifetime fulfillment instead of temporary satisfaction? I happen to have an answer.
True lifetime fulfillment, comes from identifying your individual needs, getting them met, and living a life directly related to your core values. You didn’t know it was that easy, did you?

As mothers, we spend hours, days, weeks, months and years giving energy, time, and love to our family, making sure their every need is met. Here’s the catch. If we don’t take the time, effort, and commitment to uncover our own needs and get them met, we’ll spend each and every day unconsciously chasing them down! This leads to wasted energy, frustration, and an inability to move ahead.

If these are qualities you’d like to avoid, pay attention to what’s next. It’s got to be about you sometimes. Not just once a year on Mother’s Day. There’s a coaching term called Self-Care. It’s mandatory for true and lasting happiness. Self-Care-is a form of giving to your self. Something we often forget to do. Unfortunately, I rarely see- “take care of self today” on most moms’ to-do lists. Every mom has different ways of being or doing that makes their heart sing or fill their energy reserves. It’s time to find out what is meaningful for you and incorporate that into your life on a daily basis. No more waiting, it’s your turn.

You’ve just acquired 3 key steps to finding lifetime fulfillment. Identifying your personal needs, setting goals related to your true values, and practicing regular Self-Care. Fulfillment is a process you joyfully claim for yourself, simply because you know your worth it. This is your life, and you want it to be the best. What’s best for you is best for everyone, anyway…another secret. Just remember the tried-and-true quote, “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”

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Happy Mom and Executive Coach,
Stefanie Dumont
Co-Founder of Conscious and Carefree